Hello everyone. I just found this community and joined, so I thought I would take a moment and say hello and ask a few questions.
I'm a bit "new" to this, well, D&S, not sex. I have had many girlfriends, but never before have I had a girl ask me to "top" her. I've had rough and tumble sex before, but nothing as formal as dominance and submission. So, this is all a bit new to me. I've been fascinated with it before, but have never had a chance to indulge such matters.
In the past, my sex life has been somewhat lacking. Almost completely vanilla when it comes to the girls I've dated or loved. I enjoy sex in almost every form. There has only rarelly been anything that has turned me off (mostly watersports and things like that. Not that I find them repugnant, just that it is not one of my "kinks") I've been to various fetish parties, but not play parties, so I know what D&S is about, but not really "how to go about it". I know that may sound a bit peculiar. I know that there isn't a real instructional manual for this, it based all about what you and your partner find enjoyable.
I am, however, not quite sure how or where to proceed. Last night after sex my significant other and I were talking about our sex life. She professed interest in having me top her. After talking I understood that in addition to sex, she wanted a bit more. I think she wants the comfort and love that being "owned" (as she put it) gives her. That I can handle.
However, she is the first girl who has liked sex to be rough and tumble or anything other than vanilla sex. And so, my experience in such sexual practices is slight. I mean, I've spanked her during sex, and pulled her hair, and even lightly slapped her. But you can only work such things into sex so much before they get passe and boring.
So, is there any websites or such that one can provide me with that might have suggestions for someone new to all of this? It's just that I don't know of these practices, and while I am creative, I am not really coming up with "sexual activities" that she would like. I would love to surprise her and give her the wonderfully hot sex that she deserves.
I welcome and thank you for any comments and advice you may have. Also, I would prefer online resources since I am at the moment a bit on the poorer side of college. I can get books, just not at this point in time.
Thank you again.