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Wed, Oct. 4th, 2006, 05:49 am
tezer65: intro

Sadistic Leather Daddy Bear. I have been part of the community in on form or another for over 15 years as Master and Daddy. I am living in central Jersey, and I am looking to start a family of like-minded individuals who are looking to be submissive to me, but not necessarily to each other. Daddy Bear Tezer is a benevolent dictator! There is no judging of any ones Fetish or desire. If you are interested in being one of Daddies bois drop me an Email or IM on yahoo.

Tue, May. 16th, 2006, 01:38 pm
tbrents: A letter to Precious

When someone tells you that you are beautiful it's not just about you. :)

Especially in a D/s relationship. When someone tells you that you are beautiful it is a reflection on me as well.

You ARE beautiful and I know that but when someone else sees it and comments on it that means that they see it too.

Which also means that I know that you are making sure that you look beautiful for me as well. I know you do it for you but you also do it for me. For someone else to point it out completely out of the blue like that is a huge point of pride for me. :D

Keep in mind also that you didn't spend all day getting there either. Some women have to spend hours and hours to get a compliment like that.

You came home from work. Put on a dress straight from the closet. Threw on some shoes. Did your hair a little and touched up your make-up. Maybe all of 30 to 45 minutes at best. All after getting 2 kids ready to go after having worked a full day. With nary a complaint about the pain you were in or how tired you were.

And she still saw it.

You are beautiful. I see it and so do lots of other people. Those that don't, don't matter.

You surprise and impress me more and more all the time. You have the biggest heart of anyone I have ever known and are stronger then most when you set your mind to something. How you do what you do every day never fails to amaze me, especially when most people in your shoes would be laying in the floor and woe-is-me'ing all day long.

I love you more and more every day and I'm so glad and proud that you chose me.


Fri, May. 12th, 2006, 11:51 am
ghosts_jewel: hello

i was a member of safehave on yahoo before the member rooms were killed. like here i was Ghost Masters jewel .... i miss that place the chats the friends .... anyone recall me say hello ...i still my yahoo account as well ghost_masters_jewel and still love a good disscussion ....

jewel recalls the good Ol' days of a chat room where real issues were talked about and often times good advice offered....

Tue, Aug. 16th, 2005, 01:08 pm
sweetsatingirl: Sustainability of D/s relationships

Recently several friends ended relationships with their Dominants. I was speaking to one such friend the other day about "long term" and how it specifically relates to D/s (or any variation/flavore thereof). We realized that there are only a select few (who we know) who have long term, (i would dare say lifetime) committments with each other. It seems like for the most part, D/s relationships seem to last one or two years at best, or maybe that is just my perception. Now, I am not saying there arent those who have long term committments with their Dominants, and I know a few who do. Does anyone have any experiences with that - in the affirmative, contrary, or something inbetween?

I hope no one jumps down my throat about this. Its just an observation that I have made, and something that I am curious about. There is a good chance that my perception is wrong about this. It just seems that there are considerably more breakups among the lifestyle people that I know, then those who are in vanilla relationships.

sidenote - i really hate the terms "vanilla" and "lifestyle"


Tue, Aug. 9th, 2005, 04:30 pm
nightdaughter: Looks around the community

Well I joined this community last week, and finally have the time to do an intro :-)

Hmm what to say ... well my name is NightDaughter, and I am a submissive .. I am not collared nor am I owned, nor am I looking for either at this point in time.

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Sat, Mar. 12th, 2005, 01:49 pm
nexusvt100: Introductory Post

Hello everyone. I just found this community and joined, so I thought I would take a moment and say hello and ask a few questions.

I'm a bit "new" to this, well, D&S, not sex. I have had many girlfriends, but never before have I had a girl ask me to "top" her. I've had rough and tumble sex before, but nothing as formal as dominance and submission. So, this is all a bit new to me. I've been fascinated with it before, but have never had a chance to indulge such matters.

In the past, my sex life has been somewhat lacking. Almost completely vanilla when it comes to the girls I've dated or loved. I enjoy sex in almost every form. There has only rarelly been anything that has turned me off (mostly watersports and things like that. Not that I find them repugnant, just that it is not one of my "kinks") I've been to various fetish parties, but not play parties, so I know what D&S is about, but not really "how to go about it". I know that may sound a bit peculiar. I know that there isn't a real instructional manual for this, it based all about what you and your partner find enjoyable.

I am, however, not quite sure how or where to proceed. Last night after sex my significant other and I were talking about our sex life. She professed interest in having me top her. After talking I understood that in addition to sex, she wanted a bit more. I think she wants the comfort and love that being "owned" (as she put it) gives her. That I can handle.

However, she is the first girl who has liked sex to be rough and tumble or anything other than vanilla sex. And so, my experience in such sexual practices is slight. I mean, I've spanked her during sex, and pulled her hair, and even lightly slapped her. But you can only work such things into sex so much before they get passe and boring.

So, is there any websites or such that one can provide me with that might have suggestions for someone new to all of this? It's just that I don't know of these practices, and while I am creative, I am not really coming up with "sexual activities" that she would like. I would love to surprise her and give her the wonderfully hot sex that she deserves.

I welcome and thank you for any comments and advice you may have. Also, I would prefer online resources since I am at the moment a bit on the poorer side of college. I can get books, just not at this point in time.

Thank you again.

Wed, Oct. 20th, 2004, 08:35 pm
uncptrdpassion: Nudity and it's place...a phobia?

Ok, maybe it's not a phobia, but possibly a HUGE hang up. Has anyone had the problem with nudity? What I mean is, have panic attacks knowing that "strangers" will be leering and jeering at your body that they have no right to be seeing anyway?

I experience major panic attacks when even talking about it and have found that it gets worse with age. Even if I am scantilly clad or otherwise hidden behind shear material, I am disgusted and humilated at the idea that certain "undesirable" individuals will see me vulnerable and haven't earned the right nor the trust from myself to see me in that state. I break down in shakes, feel light headed and even close to fainting at the very thought of this happening to me.

Does anyone else have any similar experiences? Have any of you overcome them? How? And was this something you have always had, or did this start after a tragic experience?

Thanks for your input...

Sat, Oct. 9th, 2004, 07:29 pm
drblasphlemy: (no subject)

It's a bit long...

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Fri, Sep. 17th, 2004, 11:26 pm
loose_canon: Help Wanted

I've recently discovered, much to my surprise, that I am extremely titillated by the BDSM lifestyle...Movement?...Life? See, I don't even have the terminology right, and I don't want to look too stupid or be offensive. Coupled with this is the fact that I'm not a kid, and used to think I was way past the experimenting phase.

Guess it's never too late.

All this started when I was invited as a guest to a Black Rose gathering in D.C. a short while back. I was immediately struck by how compelling some of the scenes were -- I found myself really turned on by it, though I was just an observer.

Thing is, I have no idea what to do with my sudden fascination -- I don't live in D.C. or I would join Black Rose and find out if this is really something I'm into. I mean, I don't know if I am a dom or a submissive, or....terminology fails yet again, as I seek the correct word for one who may enjoy both....ends of the whip, I should say, perhaps.

Any suggestions on where to go, what to do, who to talk to, to get more involved so I can find my way around, maybe find some answers? I'm nervous of being scoffed at for being on the upward side of 40 and just now checking things out for myself.

So....ideas? Help? Comments? I would appreciate any thoughts y'all have.


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